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Upgrading Your Relationships Excel Still More Pastor Jonathan Smith | ||
There was a very rich Texan who threw a big party for his daughter and so he asked all the eligible bachelors he knew to attend. After the party had been going on for a while, he asked the men to step outside for an announcement. As he lined them up alongside his Olympic size pool, they were shocked to see that it was filled with poisonous water snakes and alligators. Whoever would jump in and swim to the other side would have a choice of one million dollars, a thousand acres of choice property, or his daughter’s hand in marriage. Suddenly, there’s a loud splash as one man swims across to the other end and emerges. The We all have been unkind or inconsiderate to others, either deliberately or accidentally. It causes the hurt person to retaliate. We end up exchanging one hurt for another. This goes back and forth until it becomes a cycle of hurt that infects marriages and even causes wars. So we set up walls of protection to shield us from these hurts as we bear the pain of isolation. But that isn’t what God wants us to do. God’s will for us is to love one another, as the scripture below states: “…for God Himself has taught you to love one another. Indeed, you already show your love for all the believers throughout God wants us to truly love each other. Even after we learn how to truly love one another, He wants us to love them even more. In other words, don’t just stay where you are but move up even higher in your love for others. Excel in your love of others. There can never be enough love because relationships need constant upgrading or they get stale. Life, after all, is about relationships. Upgrading relationships involves four areas of life. The first is to: God’s command is for us to love as He does – to lay down our wants and desires for others and to do it ‘gladly’ and not grudgingly; to give more than you want to receive and to love others more than we love ourselves. There is a paradox principle in the Bible where Jesus says, “For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it” (Matthew 16:25). DISCUSSION ITEMS 1. What is one thing you can do today for someone you have taken for granted? 2. Is there something you can sacrifice in order to spend more time with those close to you? 3. Think about what tires you out in life. Name one way you can replace that with an action to upgrade your relationships. 4. Share a time when you took your Christian love one step higher and how it made a difference in someone’s life. 5. List the signs of dying relationships and ways in which you can restore life to them with God’s presence. 6. What can you die to in your life today? What will you embrace in place of it?
Doreen Rabaino & Jay Tsukayama | ||